Romance the key to good relationship

ROMANCE is in the air and St Valentine’s Day is an occasion for seduction.

You’re planning the candlelit meal, have thought about a present, and are convinced that the most romantic day of the year – Valentine’s Day – will go to plan.

But gestures like treating your loved one to a romantic meal out will come to nothing unless you’re fit for love – and that means taking an emotional health check.

Whether you’re trying to woo a new date, or wanting to spoil a partner it’s vital that your expectations are similar to those of your loved one and that you’re truly in tune with one another.

Relationship expert and Relate counsellor Denise Knowles believes one of the most common mistakes people make is to heap too much expectation on the Valentine’s event.

“It’s a lovely romantic day but it shouldn’t be regarded as the be all and end all,” she says.

“Romantic gestures needn’t be confined to one day as affectionate loving actions throughout the year are key to a healthy relationship.

“Many men don’t realise that women operate on a points system – a bunch of roses on Valentine’s Day equals one point, but a single bloom every day for a month, even a flower from the garden, is a staggering 31 points.

“That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to splash out if you can’t afford to because a hug, a compliment, and doing something thoughtful each day will be just as appreciated.”

She advises that people should regularly give their relationships and their sex life an MOT.

“Just like a car a relationship needs to be maintained and looked after otherwise it can start to develop lots of niggling faults and eventually break down.

“Couples who take the time and trouble to keep their partnerships healthy and fit will reap the benefits with a sexy, fulfilling love life.”