Obituary: Vera Turner

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It was with sadness that friends and neighbours in the local farming community heard of the death of Vera Lillian Turner who had made her home at Donington on Bain since she was fifteen years old.

Aged 81 she was the widow of the late well known farmer Bert Turner who died suddenly 11 years ago.

Since that time she had lived alone supported by her family until she needed specialist nursing help and moved to Nettleton Manor Nursing Home near Caistor where she was cared for as her illness progressed.

It was also a return to her roots as she was born and grew up in the Caistor area, the daughter of a farm foreman and the second youngest of her parents twelve children.

Vera is survived by her son John, daughter Wendy, granddaughters Emily Jayne and Rebecca and great granddaughter Kara together with a sister and brother and many nephews and nieces.

Her father travelled around from farm to farm with his work and she completed her education at the Tollbar School at Waltham when she was fifteen before coming to join her aunt and uncle who were farming at the Dairy Farm, Donington on Bain - which by coincidence is currently the home of her daughter Wendy and her family.

Auntie was not well and Vera helped out on the farm as well as caring for her and running the home for her relatives but she also had the opportunity to meet her husband to be Bert who had grown up in the village where he lived with his parents.

As their friendship grew and romance blossomed the couple were married at Muckton Parish Church where her parents were living at the time before they made their first home at No 1 Meadow Croft.

Bert continued to work for his parents on the family farm in the village and after their children were born they spent time living in a cottage next door to the post office until they finally bought Sunnydale where Vera was to remain while she was able.

She was always helping Bert on the farm especially during the busy seasons and for her own interest kept some chickens in addition to running the home and when his parents retired they took over the Ivy House farm land too.

Apart from her very busy working life she was also an active member of the community joining in with village events and enjoyed being a member of ‘The Rustics’ entertainment party. Led by the late Barry Sharpe she took part in the concerts they presented while raising funds to restore the old dilapidated Foresters Hall which is now the much admired and well used village hall.

She was also happily occupied for many years as one of ‘Mrs Hewson’s Little Hens’, a group that provided for everyone and everything in the village from weddings, christenings and funerals to Football Club Dinners- wherever there was a need they were there offering home cooking at its best and sharing their time and catering skills to ensure that all were successful community events.

As her health eventually prevented her from taking an active part she continued to give her support and contributed by donating cash and prizes to help boost the funds of local groups on a regular basis where there was a need.

When comic football matches were in fashion as fund raisers with the men wearing female attire and kicking with their left foot Vera joined the ladies team in borrowed football togs to compete with them- and there was usually lots of water involved too as entertainment was provided for the crowd.

She supported Bert in his duties as a longstanding member of the Parish Council and as a trustee of the Elizabeth Lornen Charity and she shared his enthusiasm for country pursuits and in particular following the South Wold and Burton Hunts around the countryside.

She took particular interest when her granddaughters took up riding and she could enjoy watching them taking part in events and competitions and she found a new lease of life when her great granddaughter Kara was born and she was able to help out while Emily Jayne was at work.

Taking her to school and collecting her was the highlight of her day and with Rebecca’s dog Jack that she minded during the day time too, her days were fully and happily occupied while she was able to remain in her own home.

Her family were her main interest and when her beloved Kara started riding ponies and competing successfully too, it helped to give a focus to the end of her days as her thoughts were always centred on her in particular.

Vera had been a loyal member of the church when she was younger and the respect in which she was held was shown by the representative congregation that gathered for her funeral service which was held at St Andrews’ Church, Donington on Bain.

Rev Pam Costin officiated, great granddaughter Kara Arnold read a poem ’Silent Tear’, Pam Cade was at the organ and interment followed in the village cemetery. Funeral arrangements were made by the Lincolnshire Co-operative Funeral Services of Louth and there was a request for family flowers only with donations if desired to be made to The Alzheimers Society.

Family mourners were: John and Sue Turner son and daughter in law; Tony and Wendy Arnold daughter and son in law; Emily Jayne and Daniel Crofts, Rebecca and Chris Guest grandchildren; Kara Arnold great granddaughter; Mrs Dot Robinson sister; Louise Allison niece also representing Reg and Maureen Allison brother and sister in law and Kaye Allison niece and Allan Bainbridge partner; Josie Wilson niece also representing Doris Allison sister in law and Ivan Wilson nephew; David and Debbie Williams nephew and niece also representing also representing Tom Williams nephew; Lynne Briggs niece also representing Nick and Amanda Allison (Jersey) nephew and niece; Jennifer Hippersley niece also representing Allan and Irene Allison (Jersey) nephew and niece and the Hippersley family; Carol Allison Maybank niece also representing John Maybank nephew; Mr and Mrs Desmond Harriman niece and nephew; Cynthia Havard niece; Julie Bilton niece also representing the family and John Hiles and Wendy Leigh- Smith; Charles Thornalley and Steven Forman.

Friends present included Enid Hotchin also representing Mr and Mrs B Mathews; Colin Good also representing Tim and Doreen Rowson; John andMary Sims also representing Paul Slinger; Sheila Tucker also representing George Tucker; Graham and Lynne Parkinson.

Derek and Eileen Kelsey, Bill and Alison Skitt, Edna Turner, John and Dorothy Cope, Pam Cade organist also representing Ezra Cade; Barbara To also representing the Chambers family.

John Atkinson also representing Norah Atkinson, Doreen Fields also representing Elizabeth Stutchbury; Sarah Stamp, Alice Whitwell, Jean Thompson also representing Denis Thompson; Mr and Mrs Ron Kirk also representing Robert Kirk; Mr and Mrs Phil Kirk also representing Mr and Mrs David Kirk.

Albert Sayers, Steve Garwood also representing Linda Garwood; Alison Thomas also representing Phil Thomas and Emily Taylor; Ruby Willoughby also representing the Willoughby family; Barbara Elton also representing Wally Elton; Ian and Karen Thompson, John Shepherd also representing Mr and Mrs HR Bourn.

Peter and Pat Arnold, Anthony and Jennifer Shaw, Stuart McSherry, Richard Drakes also representing Rosalie Drakes and Olivia Drakes; Jackie Taylor also representing Mathew Taylor and Mrs Jenny Ward; Alec Small also representing Lynn Small and Peter Stubbs; Evelyn Spendlow, Sue Forman, Trudy Winter, Mavis Stubbs.

Jean Wallis also representing the Wallis family; Mr and Mrs George Johnson, Nancy Wilson; Kevin Wallis also representing the Donington Rovers Football Club and the Donington on Bain Village Hall Management Committee; David Wallis; Bryan and Rosemary Parkinson, Mr and Mrs Ian Lovely, Mr Daniel and Mrs Ali Crane and others.